Hosted a nightmare show at a sports bar last night. Drunk asshole was overserved, sexually harassed my 5 lady comics at my all female show before they even hit the stage and then proceeded to heckle me during my hosting set.
My counter is to take a nice guy approach and say "I really hope you're having fun tonight". Usually people realize they were being assholes after that and chill but an overserved (and undersexed) patron is out of control and they have crazy misconceptions about stand up and the amount of 'pussy'(forgive my crudeness, that's from drunkie's POV, not mine) it gets you and thinks he's contributing to the show and the reward in 'pussy' will be great. Even though these women traveled 60 miles to play my room and will be going to my house after the show to smoke a joint and listen to vinyl before they drive home, not fuck some misogynist drunk.
I then threatened him with telling the bartender to cut him off, but he had a pitcher in front of him and he was already overserved. I got him to be quiet by ignoring the troll and using a little "frown power", which is to stop the show and visibly frown at drunk patron, thus making everyone at the table ashamed to be sitting with drunkie. That only got me through my opening hosting set.
I brought up the first girl, an eccentric that isn't quite as weird as Bamford, but is so new that she hasn't made her weirdness work to it's full potential, but she has awesome moments of brilliance. Heckler is not TOO bad, but has a few things to say, I tell the bartender something needs to be done, bartender has a few words with drunkie, goes back to the bar and moments later drunkie makes the statement "Mexicans are the new n***ers". Loudly. Homegirl told the dude to plain "SHUT THE FUCK UP"-applause break-. The bartender says she didn't hear it.
When she's done I bring lady 2. Some material about her mother and she points out that my mom is sitting in the suicide table. Oh yeah, did I mention my HISPANIC MOM is there??? Drunkie makes a comment to the effect of "I'll fuck his mother" while looking at my mom. I'm livid. Fortunately, another bartender(not the one that was 'hard of hearing') talked this patron into going to the smoking area. Unfortunately, this bar pays me a lot of money to put on shows there and so I'm not in a position to make this drunk apologize(nor is that something I typically do).
Dude came back in and couldn't even sit at the farthest spot away from the stage at the bar without misbehaving. The bartender called him a cab and he remained inside. He said something to my feature act(and very close friend) that was extremely disrespectful while on stage and I finally circumvented the bartender and told him leave and followed him out the door and the bartender followed me. I then brought up the headliner and the rest of the show went great beyond the energy drainage of the whole dealing with drunkie ordeal, leaving the headliner with a set that I could have been way better received, had that asshole not ruined the night.
It's all good, I have a show in a cannabis cafe tomorrow and those folks are way to passive to even answer a question...
I guess why I'm posting this is, if you are hosting a one nighter, have a talk with the bartender before the show. Tell them you need them to have your back. That guy should have been 86ed the second he dropped an N bomb. The bartender should have taken my word when I informed them of his extreme trespass.
I wanted to threaten the bartenders with calling them in for overserving if they didn't 86 him on the spot, but I feel that will just jeopardize my show. Oh and I heard snitching is something that is not cool. Instead, I got a few customers to ask the bartenders if they thought they had overserved the guy. That's when the bartenders seemed a little more likely to help.
How would you have handled this differently?
tl;dr Drunk asshole at all-female comedy did some pretty low class heckling and I did not have the bar staff backing me up 100%. I eventually took matters into my own hands and peacefully removed him after the final straw.