Do you think it's a bad idea for an aspiring comic to get married?

[Unholy PCP]

My ultimate dream is to be a nationally touring comic. A road comic I guess. That's all I want. To get paid for my routine and use that money for food, alcohol, and bus fare to the next gig.

But I'm also dating a girl and she may be pregnant! If I become a dad I can't just take off for somewhere. Gotta get a regular job and provide for my child.

I think I just answered my own question. But I would like to hear your opinion on it. You think its a bad idea for a beginning comic to get married?

thanks

[SeanX3]

I'm an aspiring comic, married fourteen years, with a child aged five, and I live about three hours north of New York City. I reckon it's going to be quite difficult to get a full-on career going, partly because of logistics involved in the necessary skill-building and partly because I just wouldn't want to be away every weekend.

On the other hand, I'm compelled to do it, and my wife is supportive. So I feel like I'm in it for a long slow burn and will just take each week as it comes. Eventually, I'd love for it to pay for everything my day job currently pays for, but I'm not worrying about that for now. I'm just looking at the window I've got and sticking my penis through the pane to test the temperature.

Don't get married because your girl is pregnant.
Don't get married for the child.
Don't get married because, "It's the right thing to do."
Don't get married for any reason other than it's what you want for each other as a couple who could go the distance in real life, with or without a child.

Find out if she's pregnant. If she is, yes, it's going to change your plans.

[crlygrl]

What you need to worry about is your child if she is pregnant. Focus on that and not a marriage or your career, because it's more important than both of those things. It's a life. Wear a condom.

[Unholy PCP]

Thanks to both of you for your advice.

[Keith Whitener]

Plenty of people do standup/write and have children. You have to pay your dues before you get to tour nationally, but if you did it you'd have the chance to spend a lot of time with your family.

[funkyrhino]

If you're just a beginner you're a long way off from being a middle act/headliner. Your baby will probably be about 5 years of age before youre consistently at the feature act stage

[Just Brett]

I started comedy about this time last year. Since then I got married, and luckily she's been very supportive. Our plan is to have children here in about 4 or 5 years. I'll be 34 or 35, depending on if my math is correct. It's not my plan to become a touring comedian, or a feature act, or even a headliner. I've been passionate about comedy since I was 10 years old, watching Carlin or Eddie Murphy past my bed time. Comedy is and will probably always just be a hobby, and I love doing it, but it will always come in second or third place. My focus at this point in my life is my marriage; trying to be a good husband. But the moment a child enters my life, comedy will naturally take a back seat. Those are my two cents.

[pg13]

Can you raise a family on $9,000 a year?

If not...then...

Does your wife-to-be work? Does she have a job that can support you (and your child)? Is she willing to be the major bread winner in the family? Is she willing to not only be the major bread winner but also the majority care giver to your child (because you won't be around very much)? Is she willing to do all this while, at the same time, trusting you completely while you spend almost every night of your life in bars?

If she is all of those things, you marry the SHIT out of her.

pg--Married to a successful business lawyer who makes my crazy life possible.--pacific northwest

[Unholy PCP]

My girlfriend told me today that she isn't pregnant! That's great news. I can now go back to only caring for myself badly.

Plus, there's enough people wandering around on this planet. We don't need another one

Thank you Brett, pg13, rhino, and keith for your words of advice. I wish you all well. Now it's fruit loops time

[Just Brett]

Oohh, fruit loops!! Shit just got real...

[Unholy PCP]

real delicious

[nixonjames]

Find a wife who's sole dream in life is to drive a bus and stay in Motel 6's and everything's peaches.

[Siggers]

This all can be avoided with 200 Bucks and a trip to Planet parent hood.

Or 40 dollars a wire hanger and a homeless guy.


JK, JK.

[Harry Bongers]

This all can be avoided with 200 Bucks and a trip to Planet parent hood.

Or 40 dollars a wire hanger and a homeless guy.


JK, JK.

Is Planet Parenthood a theme restaurant?

[Siggers]

Yes, it gives out free laffy taffy, abortions, and birth control. I'm thinking of vacationing there next year.

[RoyalDutchOfDukes]

Does the Laffy Taffy have abortion-themed puns and jokes on the wrappers?

[Vercetti]

Kids and marriage? Good luck mining comedy from THOSE things. Right guys? Right...?

[bernierunns]

I think it's a comedian rite of passage to get married, then subsequently get divorced. My ex-wife pushed me to do comedy for years, then 9 months ago I I took her advice and started going to open mics. Three months later I was divorced.

Phase one complete! You see, it's essential to have a lady that believes in you for at least three months. That is the key!

Life is kick ass now, I live in a tree house apartment, I play my records at high volume and as soon as I walk in the door I remove my pants. I have way more time to write now since I don't have to listen to a woman yelling at me about not wearing pants around the house and playing loud music all the time. Oh yeah, and I get my kids on the weekends! And Tuesdays!

Good luck with everything!

[stephenhicks]

According to Louis CK, you should definitely get married!

[Keith Whitener]

This all can be avoided with 200 Bucks and a trip to Planet parent hood.

Or 40 dollars a wire hanger and a homeless guy.


JK, JK.

I said more or less the same thing but then backed down. You're a braver man than I, Siggers!