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I'm concerned with having all of this public. I think it's not good for what I'm trying to do. I'm going to delete my posts. Thanks for all the kind words.
Last edited by TimBuktu; July 11, 2011 at 8:25 PM.
If you're looking for a compromise switch to red wine. I did and never looked back. A bottle is only about 600 calories, it's fancy, you sip it (theoretically) and it's less expensive over all. It's a little more challenging to discreetly drink it in the men's room before a Raptors' game but that's a sacrifice I had to make.
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Read Infinite Jest.
Exercise like a madman before dinner. You'll be too wiped out to stay awake long enough to get the crippling panic attacks from not drinking at night.
I'm not saying anything about Harry but my friend who is a recovering alcoholic exclusively drank wine. The sweet nectar of the grape nearly ruined his life. I thought that was strange but he said it is pretty common. With wine an alcoholic can ramp up the drinking through out the day. Mimosa for breakfast. A couple of glasses for lunch. A bottle with dinner. etc.Originally Posted by Harry Bongers
Most the people I know who are sober, and successfully stay that way, view whatever they are addicted to the same way someone with a peanut allergy views nuts. You can't manage a peanut allergy by sort of eating nuts. Trying to pace an addiction never seems to work because even if you socially drink you might slip at any time.
Those are just my thoughts.
Also Bucky Sinister's book is supposed to be great.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/157...EH85T6KMN73FYX
If you think drinking has been hindering you I hope the sobriety helps you. Good luck buddy.
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"Not the victory but the action. Not the goal but the game. In the deed the glory."
At the beginning of this year I quit drinking for about four months in order to ease quitting cigarettes. The hardest part of both was letting go of the old habits, i.e. immediately walking to the bar when at a show to grab a beer, the cigarette smoking 10 minutes prior to doing a set, etc. I tried to replace that with a solid schedule for when I would make sure I was in bed, when I would wake up, go to the gym, etc. and I also got a lot of reading done.
In fact, after being back on the sauce for a while I'm considering quitting again. I felt pretty great after I got through the first week of sobriety. Once you forget what it feels like to wake up even kinda/sorta hungover you lose the urge a bit, or at least I did. Good luck, sir.
Another vote for exercise, particularly cardio. A cheap-ish treadmill would be sufficient, maybe some light dumbbells. You'll have a lot of extra time to fill, and unlike other time fillers - reading, video games, cocaine - you can't exercise and drink simultaneously. Plus you might even start to feel better about yourself, I sort of do.
I've never been able to completely quit drinking since I started at about age 15. I have managed to go a period of weeks or even a couple months without booze though. Sorry to say I don't have any tricks Tim. I myself struggle with keeping that vice under control. I just decided, strangely enough, on Sunday to not drink for a solid month and to exercise at least 3 days a week to kick start some weight loss. In 2009 I lost 40 lbs. by not drinking and exercising 3 or 4 days a week for about 45 minutes. Then I started drinking again and last week some of my "Fatter" clothes started to feel tight, so I decided to do something about it.
Vices are touchy. I should say that while I vowed not to drink for this month, I have zero intention of giving up the weed. So I know I'm kind of cheating...but I figure weed isn't empty calories like booze is. You seem like a strong guy, and I'm sure you'll be able to do this. Good luck, and I'm sorry there's no magic wand to get up onto the wagon.
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...it just leads to them.
Because we loves you.
On an only slightly related note...
If someone other than tron can give me the magic spell to make me hate cigarettes and never smoke them again, I'd appreciate it....
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I wouldn't feel weird about sharing this here. This place is (mostly) different from other places in that people here are actually decent human beings and want the best for other human beings. Look at the Depression thread. Besides, I think it's actually good that you put it here because, in a way, it can hold you accountable. You can come back every few days, weeks, months, whatever, and check in. I think it could serve as a good motivator.
I don't have any advice to offer other than I think it's admirable that you're doing this to try to make your life better because you saw that drinking hard was making your life worse.
If you want, I'll bump this thread every week as a way of forcing you to check in and stay sober.
Good luck.
In all seriousness, you are a very good guy, and are doing a brave thing. Best of luck, and don't apologize for wanting to vent or share with us. We all pretty much love each other here, and want you to be happier and well. Can't wait to see your next phase of tapes. I shall call them "Clarity Tapes."
EDIT: Sheeesh, Kurt, way to take everything I was typing and say it better. What an asshole.
Well now I feel like a total asshole. Sorry to respond glibly, and best of luck.
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I think that reaching out is the best idea possible. I'm sure that you'll find lots of people who care about you and are really glad that you're making this decision.
I for one am wishing you the best, buddy.
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Yeah, you're right. And that's a concern I have with giving up booze but not pot. But whatever, I can cross that road later. This thread is for Tim.
Tim, it sounds like you're in a place where you're ready to make a change and that's a really, really positive thing. I'm sorry the lady yelled at you...it seems kind of dumb to yell at someone who's asking for help. And don't feel bad at all about sharing this here, like everyone else has said, this place is different, and you're well respected here. I actually admire the fact that you've opened up about this.
You can do it, and you will do it.
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