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Is the 4 month "wakeful period" a thing? Because this kid is not wanting to nap at all. He does seem like he's teething but it seems more like he's just way too aware of everything to sleep. Anyone else experience this??
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Yes. Exactly this. At three months she was sleeping through the night. At 4 months that was all over.
My wife and I tried for a bit with charts and ll that but we gave up because it was boring. We just decided to let whatever happens, happens. Then, one day, I said, "I'm gonna put a baby in you," and that worked. I don't know the science of "name it, claim it" but in my experience it works every time.
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RE: Sleeplessness... both my kids had a really hard time with teething. Every time they cut a tooth, sleep patterns were continually interrupted. It's the worst.
RE: Makin' babies... my wife and I are 2 for 2 on unplanned pregnancies. I highly recommend it. I can't remember if we were listening to much Tenacious D at the time or not, but upping your D intake certainly couldn't hurt.
Because it's such a new and kind of awkward situation, I've been making jokes about it... saying things like, "Is it time to drop off stinky loads?" I'm going to try the straight forward "I'm going to put a baby in you" this month.... you know, because the Secret. Good call Nathan.
I woke up to a very upset wife a couple of days ago. She's taking it exceptionally hard. It sucks. I keep trying to stay positive and think that the baby we eventually have will be the one we were meant to have.
On another note, my grandpa's name is Del and I want to name my son Del... but my wife thinks the name sounds too rural. I keep telling her "Del the Funky Homosapien" but it's not working.
Uh, also the father of improv/ pretty much all modern comedy DEL CLOSE, helloooooo... Seriously though, I think that's a cool name.
Good luck with the fucking leading to conception. I'm keeping my fingers, toes, and balls crossed for you. You probably shouldn't cross your balls, though; that can't be good for the sperm.
Del's a great name for all the noted reasons, but you should give it extra consideration because it's a family name, which makes it easier to defend when people start giving you grief about your choice. And they will definitely do that, loudly and often, because people are dumb, opinionated assholes. Both our kids are named after grandparents, so they have weird old timey names. They will do well when time travel becomes a thing.
Best wishes to TimBuktu and anyone else here struggling with trying to get pregnant. My wife and I were told that we would likely never conceive, and that changed rather abruptly and without explanation one day, so hopefully you'll have a similar awesome surprise in your near future.
Henry has two middle names (like his father) and people cant seem to wrap their minds around it in the slightest...
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My youngest has two middle names. People who give a shit too much about what other people name their kids are lame.
Henry Metro Goldwyn Mayer?Originally Posted by crlygrl
Going through the exact same thing right now (wife has PCOS). We have only been trying for 5 months but it is really starting to wear us down. I've been doing my best to remain positive and upbeat for her sake but eventually "Next month is our month" just stops working. The silver lining I see is that when we do finally get pregnant we are just going to appreciate our kid that much more.
Also, Del is an awesome name.
My wife and I tried for about four months, which in retrospect sounds like a very short amount of time. But at the time it absolutely sucked. Every month was a letdown, and the second we got a positive test we started freaking out about being parents.
I will say this - the conflicted feelings you have when you are trying to conceive - of being upset at your failure and secretly relieved that you don't have to think about the reality of parenthood for another month - continue through the pregnancy (and, I imagine, once the baby is born). At least that has been my experience. My wife just hit 7 months pregnant today, and we are pretty evenly excited and freaked out.
I think that this whole process has been an ongoing lesson in the fact that you/we have very little control over our lives. Either we conceive or we don't. Either the baby is healthy or it isn't. The main goal at this point is to find happiness in whatever stage or situation we are in.
My wife fell on her stomach yesterday and we had to go to the hospital. Everything was fine, but I got the first pangs of parental panic that I know will never go away for the rest of my life. I realized that I've opened my heart up to pain in a way that I've never done before, and I'm basically guaranteed to be emotionally devastated by this experience at some point. But I guess that's the deal. My wife and I sat in the hospital, listening to our child's thankfully healthy heartbeat for six hours. And I have to be appreciative of those moments so that I have enough strength to overcome the hard moments that are most assuredly coming.
Chad, you and your wife are in a tough spot in the midst of a strong, happy relationship. I know through your honesty on this board some of the things the two of you have been through together, and you are both very fortunate to be with someone who you are thrilled to be parents with. That was the main motivator for me - even more than being a dad, I wanted my wife to be a mom. She is going to be great at it. I know it's lame for me to say "Be grateful for what you have!" when my wife is already pregnant, but that's the best comfort that my wife and I found during those tough nights after another negative test result. We just told each other "when this happens, we will be even more prepared than we would have been if we got pregnant immediately. And we are going to be good at this because we love each other, and that's the best you can hope for when you're a parent." And then we tried to keep going.
Good luck to you both, man.
"He's got a dick, why won't he talk about it?"
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When we were trying, I was psycho. Baby crazy. A complete mess. Even before we started officially trying, I was pretty much obsessed with having a baby I couldn't wait.
When I peed on the test (in the bathroom at work because I just couldn't wait) and it came back with the pink line or whatever, my first thought was "Oh my god, what have we done?!" I was filled with panic for about 10 seconds and then I got excited and stayed excited. Until a I hit 37 weeks where I was walking around saying "We made a human. And he's going to come out of my body and we are going to have to take care of him. There is a person in here. OH MY GOD."
Pregnancy/babytime is a hell of a thing.
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HOLY F, I'M GONNA BE A FATHER!!!!
Scrappy-Doo?
No one likes Scrappy. My kid will be mocked endlessly if I name him/her that.
Congrats!
Thanks, Matt. It was a rough 5 months of trying, but those 5 months just made us appreciate it more when we finally got the positive test results. I hope that the other people on this thread that are trying keep it up and don't give up. I'm proof that it can all work out.
Congrats!!! Yay.
Henry popped a tooth. It makes him scream like he's on fire.
But also, he laughs this deep goofy laugh if I say "Momma looooooves the baby."
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